My Thirty-Fourth Year

Today is my thirty-fourth birthday.

I’m not a big birthday celebrator, especially considering how close my birthday is to the holiday season. Two weeks, to the day, from Christmas Eve. As a kid, it kind of felt like an extension of the holiday season. As an adult, it’s more like any other day. Which, I suppose is similar for most.

Today, I’m going back to work after over 21 days of vacation, quite frankly, 21 days of being at home is a few too many. I’m ready to get back to a routine and some normalcy. Don’t get me wrong, endless Netflix binges, hanging out in my yoga pants, and constant dog snuggles were amazing, but dude, homie needs something to do!

One of the benefits of having a birthday in early January is that when I set intentions and goals for the year, it’s like two birds, one stone. 2019 will be the year of | E M I L Y | – in case you didn’t already know. Maybe it’s a nice gift from the universe that for my birthday, I am going back to normal life with a new intention, goals, and foundations for the year ahead. Thank you, Universe.

my thirty fourth year

This year, my birthday wish is simple.

Health for my family + friends, the ability to continue growing + learning, and the luxury to continue planning for the future.

 

Here’s to another trip around the sun!

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8 Lessons I Learned in 2018

The last 364 days threw a lot of different things, people, emotions, situations, and issues at me. Some great, some initially perceived great, and some… just plain ugly. Looking back on year I realized just how even at the age of 33 there are lessons to be learned.

1. Not everything needs a social media picture or caption. Social media is so consuming that I have started forming habits where whatever I do, I think about how I could caption it if I posted it on Instagram. It isn’t pretty, but it’s reality. I am working toward adopting the philosophy that: “yes, if something happens and it wasn’t posted to social media that it was real.”

2. Money demands responsibility. Not respecting the value and necessity of money is immaturity at its finest. The thought that having spending money for whatever you want and remaining ignorant of the impact it has on your budget, credit, and ability to succeed is irresponsible. Which brings me to…

3. Things + food don’t satisfy emotional needs. Buying crap you don’t need or eating food your body doesn’t need do nothing positive for your emotional stability. Instead it creates an illusion that you can rely on these external things to be happy or content. Instead, imagine how much more satisfied you’d be with a body fueled by healthy foods and regular exercise and a bank account that allows you to pay your bills and go on vacation.

4. Some relationships aren’t meant to last forever. About halfway through the year a few of my relationships took an unexpected turn. At the time it bordered on devastating, I was hurt, obsessing about what I had done wrong, and lonely. It took me several months to realize that not all relationships, no matter how crucial they were at one time, are meant to last forever. I created my own version of closure.

5. Negativity is toxic and contagious. Constant negativity is not only toxic to yourself, but also those around you. It sucks the life out of a room and infects everyone around you. Why waste the effort on trying to not be positive? Don’t be a soul sucker.

6. My marriage is worth honoring with time, effort, and energy. Being married for eight years, going through the accelerated lifestyle that Justin and I have had to endure has certainly taken its toll. As our lives became less chaotic it became apparent that we also had to get out of our role of patient and caregiver. Our marriage is a partnership that deserves our time, effort, and energy. Our partnership deserves to be honored.

7. It’s okay to still not know “what I want to do when I grow up”. People are constantly growing, learning new things, and discovering new passions. The 40-year career with the same company is no longer the standard, and that’s okay. Instead of trying to force a single job title, I’m choosing to grow and utilize my gifts in my career.

8. I don’t have to be everything. I want to, oh do I want to be everything. But I can’t. It’s impossible and, quite frankly, exhausting. I don’t have to be everything; I just have to be me.

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Coffee Chats + Yoga Pants

Fridays are my favorite.

In that spirit, today I’ll be writing about all of things that I would tell you if we were hanging out, in our comfiest yoga pants, chatting about our week. Grab a warm cup of coffee and let’s chat!

Speaking of coffee. I have been obsessed with holiday coffee lately. I’m not sure what it is, because in reality, they’re not THAT different than any other coffee that I drink everyday. My favorites are Trader Joe’s Wintery Blend + Starbucks Holiday Blend.

This was the first year that I sent out Christmas cards. It seems like a dying art, but I am hoping to be more present in celebration in the coming year. One of the things I realized as I was putting together the cards was that I have NO ONES address, while I’m grateful for whitepages.com, it was incredibly tedious to look up everyone. My 2019 goal to purchase and complete an address book and birthday list was born out of this frustration. I ended up purchasing the Rifle Paper Co. Raven Address book. It’s on the pricier side, but I loved the design and it had exactly what I wanted. It now sits in my desk organizer and is also a place to keep my stamps!

I completed quite a few things on my Christmas Break Bucket List this week! I was able to wrap all of my presents, had a dinner and hot tub night with my mom and sister, I made greens for the first time, went to the eye doctor, and took Winnie to the vet. It was a productive week, for sure!

Speaking of making greens. Here’s my Instagram post where I shared my amazeballs dinner of Chicken Thighs and Bacon Greens. YUMMMM!

I’ve been missing my yoga practice lately, and while I’m waiting to purchase my membership to my favorite studio, I want to make a space at home that has the appropriate energy to use for yoga and maybe some meditation. I’m thinking part of my office will be transformed over break!

Justin and I have been on a Christmas movie watching binge lately. We’ve watched: Home Alone + Home Alone 2, Christmas Chronicles, The Santa Clause + The Santa Clause 2 (we’ve watched both of these TWICE), The Polar Express, and most of Christmas Vacation.

Thanks for hanging with me! Happy Friday!

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